in front of the neighbors’ children. Which doesn’t sound bad, right? Oh no. It’s caused a nightmare & I can’t seem to leave big space, now. I’m too upset and over thinking everything to slip into little space. Here’s the story:
While the neighbors know of our type of relationship they also understand that I am technically an adult. Therefore, I babysit their children sometimes. They love having me because I play and have fun just like a child but stay on the precipice of big space for when discipline or emergencies arrive while I am a temporary guardian. So, they had asked me to babysit today.
Daddy left for work at the same time that Tina left for her appointment. She brought the children over to the house and I kissed Daddy goodbye in front of them. The children very well know him as my Daddy. They know nothing of him being my husband.
So, while the kiss was normal for Tina, the children became very confused.
The entire time I was babysitting them they asked me questions. Why did you kiss your Daddy like that? Mommy kisses Daddy like that but we don’t kiss Daddy like that. Is your Daddy a bad man? Does he make you do that? Etc. They are both very smart children who are in school and have learned of right and wrong.
I didn’t know what to say. Some questions I wrote off. While others I had to answer. No, my Daddy is not a bad man. Not by any means and he does not MAKE me kiss him.
Needless to say, Tina is now very upset with us. None of us know how to explain our relationship to the children. Quite frankly, we don’t want to. We didn’t want to introduce them to our lifestyle at such a young age. Their parents always worried something like this would happen.
Honestly, I have no idea how to make things right with them. They are friends of ours & their children are really the only people I play with. I have no littles near me that I can have play dates with. Daddy doesn’t want me to lose that but I don’t know how to fix this. I just don’t.